So what are your chances of reading body language on an average date, especially once you factor in low lighting, two drinks, and maybe some Botox? And remember your own body language: The time spent changing outfits or planning what you are going to say next would be much better spent making your date comfortable enough to establish a "baseline.
Comfort: According to former FBI agent and body language expert Joe Navarro, we have to first ask ourselves a very basic question: Is his overall body language comfortable leaning toward you, torso and feet pointed in your direction with a comfortable amount of eye contact or uncomfortable facing away from you, hands hidden, either staring at you or constantly breaking eye contact? Context: Fidgeting, avoiding eye contact, and sweating profusely would normally be bad body language—but on a first date, nervousness can make perfect sense.
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Before you can interpret the gesture, you have to figure out the context. Consistency: His actions should match his words, so watch for verbal and nonverbal consistency. Telling you that he's having a great time while leaning back and looking toward the door or saying "yes" while shaking his head are bad signs.
Clusters: Most behavior hot spots happen in clusters.
Avoiding a question about his ex may not be significant, but if he suddenly touches his knee, looks away, and grabs his neck all at the same time after you ask him if he's separated, watch out! Smile: Does his smile reach his eyes? A faux-happy smile ends at the lips, while a genuine one will make the corners of his eyes crinkle into crow's feet, which, according to experts, is one of the hardest things to fake.
Nose: Flared nostrils indicate increased heart rate, which could mean he's angry, sexually aroused—or both!
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Torso: As anyone who has ever tried to crash a cocktail party circle can tell you, people naturally lean in the direction of their interest. If he's twisted away, he may be talking to you but he's focused on something else. Feet: People say that the eyes are the window into the soul, but behavior experts swear that you can gauge a man's interest much better based on his feet.
A body points toward where it wants to be going—so if his feet face you, he's all yours. But if they are angled toward the door, he's mentally on his way out. Hands: Palms up on the table is a sign of relaxed, open interest—but hidden under the table are a sign of discomfort. Either he's hiding something, or very nervous. Chin: People often stroke their chin during the decision-making process, so he's probably pondering something.
Arms: We naturally reach toward things we like, so an arm around you or a hand touching you are very good signs, while arms clasped behind the back signal, "Don't come any closer. In a discussion, when one stands, sits or even walks with folded arms, it is normally not a welcoming gesture. It could mean that they have a closed mind and are most likely unwilling to listen to the speaker's viewpoint.
Another type of arm gesture also includes an arm crossed over the other, demonstrating insecurity and a lack of confidence. The shrug is a good example of a universal gesture that is used to show that a person doesn't understand what you are saying. Hand gestures often signify the state of well-being of the person making them. Relaxed hands indicate confidence and self-assurance, while clenched hands may be interpreted as signs of stress or anger. If a person is wringing their hands, this demonstrates nervousness and anxiety.
Finger gestures are also commonly used to exemplify one's speech as well as denote the state of well-being of the person making them. In certain cultures, pointing using one's index finger is deemed acceptable. Instead, they point with their thumbs. But this same gesture is insulting in other countries like Iran, Bangladesh and Thailand, where it is the equivalent of showing the middle finger in the US. In most cultures the Head Nod is used to signify 'Yes' or agreement.
It's a stunted form of bowing — the person symbolically goes to bow but stops short, resulting in a nod. Bowing is a submissive gesture so the Head Nod shows we are going along with the other person's point of view. Research conducted with people who were born deaf and blind shows that they also use this gesture to signify 'Yes', so it appears to be an inborn gesture of submission. Handshakes are regular greeting rituals and commonly done on meeting, greeting, offering congratulations or after the completion of an agreement.
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They usually indicate the level of confidence and emotion level in people. Handshakes are popular in the United States and are appropriate for use between men and women. However, in Muslim cultures, men may not shake hands or touch women in any way and vice versa.
Likewise, in Hindu cultures, Hindu men may never shake hands with women. Instead, they greet women by placing their hands as if praying.
A firm, friendly handshake has long been recommended in the business world as a way to make a good first impression, and the greeting is thought to date to ancient times as a way of showing a stranger you had no weapons. Body language related to breathing and patterns of breathing can be indicative of a person's mood and state of mind; because of this, the relationship between body language and breathing is often considered in contexts such as business meetings and presentations.
Generally, deeper breathing which uses the diaphragm and abdomen more is interpreted as conveying a relaxed and confident impression; by contrast, shallow, excessively rapid breathing is often interpreted as conveying a more nervous or anxious impression.
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Some business advisers, such as those who promote neuro-linguistic programming , recommend mirroring a person's breathing pattern in order to convey an impression of mutual understanding. Covering one's mouth suggests suppression of feeling and perhaps uncertainty. This could also mean that they are thinking hard and may be unsure of what to say next. Unfortunately, many people send confusing or negative nonverbal signals without even knowing it. When this happens, both connection and trust are damaged.
Oculesics, a subcategory of body language, is the study of eye movement, eye behavior, gaze, and eye-related nonverbal communication. As a social or behavioral science, oculesics is a form of nonverbal communication focusing on deriving meaning from eye behavior. For example, in traditional Anglo-Saxon culture, avoiding eye contact usually portrays a lack of confidence, certainty, or truthfulness. Haptics, a subcategory of Body Language, is the study of touching and how it is used in communication. Based on the Body Language Project,  touching is the most developed sense at birth and formulates our initial views of the world.
Touching can be used to sooth, for amusement during play, to flirt, to express power and maintain bonds between people, such as with baby and mother.
Touching can carry distinct emotions and also show the intensity of those emotions. Touch absent of other cues can signal anger, fear, disgust, love, gratitude and sympathy depending on the length and type of touching that is performed.
Many factors also contribute to the meaning of touching such as the length of the touch and location on the body in which the touching takes place. Research has also shown that people can accurately decode distinct emotions by merely watching others communicate via touch. Heslin outlines five haptic categories: .experiencetheleap.com/map4.php
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Donald Walton  stated in his book that touching is the ultimate expression of closeness or confidence between two people, but not seen often in business or formal relationships. Touching stresses how special the message is that is being sent by the initiator. A study by Jones and Yarbrough  regarded communication with touch as the most intimate and involving form which helps people to keep good relationships with others. For example, Jones and Yarbrough explained that strategic touching is a series of touching usually with an ulterior or hidden motive thus making them seem to be using touch as a game to get someone to do something for them.
Another notable area in the nonverbal world of body language is that of spatial relationships, which is also known as Proxemics. Introduced by Edward T. Hall in , proxemics is the study of measurable distances between people as they interact with one another. Hall also came up with four distinct zones in which most men operate: . In addition to physical distance, the level of intimacy between conversants can be determined by "socio-petal socio-fugal axis", or the "angle formed by the axis of the conversants' shoulders". For example, when people talk they like to face each other.
If forced to sit side by side, their body language will try to compensate for this lack of eye-to-eye contact by leaning in shoulder-to-shoulder.